Hull White Star wrote:
If you try and look for love you will never find it. I always say you'll meet someone when you least expect it and when you're not looking or trying. Love will find you, be patient.
Ha this is a myth.
I have to say the 'permanent singletons' that I know, are
a) invariably male
b) never look for a partner in the slightest
and surprisingly enough, women don't come and seek them out either. They just quietly get on with their own lives and hobbies and their relationship status or love life becomes the thing you don't mention.
I think it might work for women. Even an average looking woman will attract a few suitors without having to look particularly hard. If you have an average looking single woman, and place her in a context where she will spend time with a single man (eg through work, social friendship group etc) there is a fair chance that the single man will consider her as an option.
But it doesn't really work the other way round, I think if a man is single for a certain length of time and he wants to find a partner, there is much more of a requirement for him to do something pro active and make an effort. "Not looking" for a male avoids the thing of being desperate, but means he will go years and years without female attention.